The questionable existence of the G-spot

Posted at 10:00 AM Jan 04, 2010

By Andrea Grimes

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In a study involving 1,800 women (all twins), The Journal of Sexual Medicine (also, this is what I'm naming my band) has discovered that the "elusive" G-spot is elusive and maybe non-existent:

The King's College London team believe the G-spot may be a figment of women's imagination, encouraged by magazines and sex therapists. But sexologist Beverley Whipple who helped popularise the G-spot idea said the work was "flawed".

She said the researchers had discounted the experiences of lesbian or bisexual women and failed to consider the effects of having different sexual partners with different love-making techniques. The women in the study, who were all pairs of identical and non-identical twins, were asked whether they had a G-spot.

If one did exist, it would be expected that both identical twins, who have the same genes, would report having one. But this pattern did not emerge and the identical twins were no more likely to share a G-spot than non-identical twins who share only half of their genes.

I am so damned tired of hearing about the G-spot, where it is, what it does, or whether or not it exists. The single-minded preoccupation with finding some kind of magic button of female sexuality is incredibly problematic. The G-spot obsession hypes vanilla hetero sex wherein all a woman needs and wants is to be pounded by some dude and his magic dick. Freud even called the clitoral orgasm "infantile." Instead of looking for one thing, can we move the conversation to talking about the many, many things and combinations thereof that get women off?

Myself and a team of ... several ... dedicated and enthusiastic colleagues have spent years doing "research" on this and related subjects, and I haven't found my G-spot. And I couldn't care less about doing so. Whether you have a G-spot or not--and I'm betting many of you ladies do--hand-wringing and worrying about normal/correct/typical sex and sex organs are great examples of ways I am definitely not going to be getting off.

Based on an informal survey of my fellow dolls, this seems to be the consensus:

Tolly: "Not to sound all uptight and WASPy but even the directives we ladies have been force-fed over the years about G-spot discovery do not sound pleasant.  Something like, 'insert your front two fingers in and touch them to the front wall of your vaginal cavity.'  This is what my gynecologist does during an exam.  And it's not erotic. At ALL."

Merritt: "I feel like I'd prefer it to be a myth so that I'm not a failure in the eyes of all of the sex coaches on Real Sex 1 through 357. I will say that certain areas feel better than others and are um, more productive when prodded, but there are just too many factors to say it's all one spot's magical doing."

Susan: "Dudes want to believe there is a G-Spot because it makes orgasm easy and being a good lover can become like pushing a button on a machine.  Even if it exists (the clit exists, for christ's sake) it's still not some magic spot that is going to make a woman fall apart.  Women's orgasms are holistic.  That's just the way it is and the way it will be."

Kiala: "I'm sorry. I can't get past the fact that some GENIUS came up with the idea to conduct a 'study' about 'vaginas' and 'twins.; BOWCHICKABOWWOW."

Ladies, does finding your G-spot keep you up at night ... in a bad way?

Comments

e.b. said:

I remember a Dan Savage article where he asked women to write in with tips guys should follow to give good oral. The joke was (and I'm sure he filtered the emails that got shown) was that there was no one way women like it. Some like a lot of clit stimulation with no vaginal messing around and some liked the opposite or a combination. The point I think everyone needs to get to is that different people like different things and everyone's body is slightly different. You just have to look at the outer lips and how different those are on women. There is a crazy amount of variety there and it makes sense that the inside is different too. I think finding the g-spot should be a matter of figuring out what works for you.

Pete said:

It seems the only reason someone would look for methodology like that would be to "package" it as a commodity. A veritable holy grail! But I just approach it the same way a do dieting. Seefood dieting!! :p

ebony said:

ah, the g-spot and its claim of, 'press here!'

dsi r4 said:

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Heidi Anderson said:

I have always assumed that people were using G-spot stimulation in ADDITION to clitoral stimulation.

I guess I have been doing it wrong, and all of the wonderful gushing orgasms I have had were fake.

I can't imagine coming from just G-spot stimulation alone.

muggies247 said:

SPOILER: Sorry if this is grody, but let me just say that I've found it on at least four chicks. It's not a magic button, but if done rightly, yeah, it makes it happen. Now for the pervy "If any of you need help finding it, I'll gladly oblige" and other such skeevy things.

almost30 said:

@muggies247:
Have you ever heard of a faked orgasm?

Andrea said:

@almost30

this is the exact thought that occurred to me. haha.

muggies247 said:

@andrea, @almost30:
have you ever heard of squirting? can't fake that, sister

muggies247 said:

and what's more: I never said I gave the girls orgasms (which, of course, I did ;P ), I was merely trying to offer my help based on my (VAST) experience. I've felt it, it's real. Just because you doubt me doesn't mean you have to besmirch my (near legendary) sexual prowess.

Orangutan said:

Saw this on xkcd today, thought you all would appreciate it.

http://xkcd.com/685/

Make sure you hover your mouse over the image for the alt-text. ;)

sashaime said:

I've always wondered how the hell you know it...
Do you just know it when it happens?

Dirty Talk Ideas said:

A number of books online where you can found all the information about gspot. The great lesson from Geishas, courtesans , and today's celebrity porn queens is not in the physical acts they perform... it's in HOW THEY TALK!

Offshore SEO said:

I think I've done wrong and all the wonderful gushing orgasms I had was false.

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