Posted at 1:38 PM Jan 19, 2010By Andrea Grimes
Since today's list was about getting dumped, it's fitting that this edition of SIB'TGRY is about exes. Specifically, talking about them. Specifically, how grown-ass people shouldn't really do that on the internet if they can help it. If you are over the age of 25--and even younger, if you're feeling precocious--consider not bitching, moaning and talking shit about your ex-lover on Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc. It will end badly, and you will mainly just come off as a jealous asshat.
I'm not talking about writing or discussing thoughtfully the in's and out's of failed relationships. That can be productive. I'm talking about the things you want to write in all caps on your Facebook status after four too many whiskeys. For folks of a certain age, it's just plain tacky.
It's probably the advent of submission sites like Lamebook, STFUMarrieds/Parents, etc. that make this phenomenon particularly painful. Sure, one expects teenagers and college kids to get all overshare on our asses with regard to love lost, but at some point, it's time to put your big kid drawers on and keep your "OMG TREY WAS SUCH A DICKBAG HE CHEATED ON ME 4 TIMEZ WHAT A SLUUUUUUUTTTTT" to yourself.
True, some of these overshare bitchings and moanings can be entertaining. But why? At least for me, the entertainment stems from schadenfreude. And while I love to revel in the pain of others, a long day of seeing adults use social networking to diss their exes, argue about their kids and air divorce drama just gets downright sad.
So, before you mouth off, realize that while it may feel cathartic for a moment, your friends and neighbors may not recommend you highly to all those fine fish in the sea you could be set up with in your new singlehood.