Posted at 12:00 PM Dec 15, 2009By Andrea Grimes
Cue the hip, neon graphics and vaguely non-rocking generic instrumental intro, because I'm about to turn this chair around and rap with the kids. See, shit is bout 'ta get real, 'cause we're gonna talk about dating, y'all!
The conundrum: what is the polite way to turn down a date you are kind of sure is a date, but might just be a friend thing, but you can't just say outright beforehand that you're not interested in the person, because that would be presumptuous, but you are kind of sure they're interested in you that way and you're not?
Yo, here's the sitch:
My friend, we'll call her Bettie, met a boy at a party last weekend. We'll call him Dirk. They did a fair amount of talking, but Bettie determined she was not really interested in Dirk in the boyfriend way. Here we are approaching mid-week, however, and Dirk has asked Bettie out to lunch. Bettie wants to know if she should say something along the lines of "This is a friend date, full stop" to Dirk before accepting. Or if she should somehow work into the conversation that she is dating around (which she is) and that she is maybe not interested in another contestant?
Guys, gals, guy-gals and gal-guys and everyone in between: what's the best way to handle this situation? Don't be afraid to get real with us, y'all.