Posted at 4:54 PM Dec 07, 2009By Andrea Grimes
That bubbly beer made me feel obligated to sit and listen to his inane schpiel (he claimed to be a comedian though he had never actually done comedy but his friends said was hilarious) for upwards of 5 minutes. Once I figured I'd put in my time, I made my way to the bathroom while Susan scooped up our purses and coats on the pretense of moving to seats with a better view of the stage. Still, I wanted that 5 minutes back.
How long is a lady obligated to talk to a person who has bought her a drink? Or is she obligated to talk at all?
Unless someone's buying shots of liquid gold, I generally think the idea that a drink bought is some kind of serious financial investment in response to which the buyee is obligated to have a conversation is rather stupid. And yet, I can't help but feel like an asshole for simply walking away with a tasty beverage in hand, even if "thanks" has been said. But do men really want gals to stand around talking to them purely because they bought them a Bud Light?
This is, of course, related to the whole expectation-of-sexytime in conjunction with niceness-of-seafood-dinner issue. Doing (what you consider to be) an incredibly generous thing for someone--with little or no warning, or against their express wishes--does not and should not ensure that they owe you anything back. (Memo to Nice Guys (tm).) I figure talking long enough to determine interest--whether that takes a half-second or 30 minutes--is just about all anyone owes the drink buyer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?