Posted at 9:41 AM Sep 01, 2009By Andrea Grimes
|my favorite high-waisted pieces|
"... in a world where we get plenty of unwanted "comments and looks" no matter what we wear (as anyone who's been cat-called while wearing a parka knows), is it so strange that we might not want to look "sexy" every damn day? That we might want to look interesting, cool, funky, serious, scary, even ugly? And that our reasons for this might not have anything to do with pleasing other people?"It's amazing to me that, in an age where modern fashion is the easiest outlet for individual self-expression, we're talking about clothing choices as being either one thing or another. So your high fashion gown doesn't impress Some Guy. Maybe Some Guy is a dude you don't really want to bone in the first place. Maybe you just like the feel of your furry velour leg-warmers or can't be bothered to hoof it to class in 4" heels. Isn't wearing what you want sexier than dressing only to impress--men or women?
I come to this issue by way of high-waisted things. I have a pair of ridiculously high-waisted black denim pants and a tight red American Apparel skirt that I wear as a kind of high-waisted pencil 'do. These are currently two of my favorite items of clothing. They're retro, fun and stupid-trendy. I adore them. But many people, both men and women, often offer unsolicited advice with regard to these pieces, telling me that guys aren't going to like me wearing those "mom jeans," that they can't believe I had the nerve/guts/balls to wear them, etc.
You'd think I was wearing a Lady Gaga costume rather than a relatively benign trend. Sadly, the current state of "sexy" in pop culture seems to be limited to what Maxim and Playboy slap between their covers month after month. There are so many ways of being sexy, and so few of them actually on display in media. And yet here I am, fashionable lady with a reasonably successful sex life and even a couple of good relationships under her (wide, high-waisted) belt. (And, oh, hey, I also happen to like my job and friends, though that's obviously not as important as having a man. Thanks, rom-coms.)
My take: whether you're wearing Prada or pajamas, if you wear what you're comfortable in, you're going to be a happier, more confident person who is more likely to attract the kind of person you might actually like back. Sure, I've seen men raise eyebrows at eclectically dressed women, but wouldn't you rather be dating the guy who thinks, "That is one nutty get-up, but she seems like a bucket of fun," than the guy who thinks, "MMM TUBE TOP BOOBIES BONER BOOBIES TITTY!"?
Dolls, do you agree? What do you wear, world-be-damned, just because you love it?