24-hour speed dating marathon. Self-loathing, much?
Posted at 4:45 PM Feb 13, 2009
By Andrea Grimes |
Online dating does not work for attractive, non-desperate twentysomethings.
There, I've said it.
I spent the past month on a dating blitz, sure that the Guy For Me was somewhere out there, but clearly not in the same ponds I generally fish in. OKCupid and the local weekly personals were my main source of gentlemanly affections, as I've heard and witnessed too many horror stories associated with trying to extricate oneself from the Match/EHarmony/True/Chemistry databases.
Who did I meet? Several nice boys. A couple of asshats. Who did I not meet? Anyone in my dating orbit. Hey, I'm all about branching out. Like I said, I know I tend to fish in the same ponds over and over again. But I can't force myself to be attracted to someone, and while I met some nice new pals, nobody came close on the love sphere. And you know what? The guys I talked to said the same thing. Maybe they weren't looking for me, but we were all clearly kind of searching for the same thing: a young, hip person, good looking and with that spark, or whatever you want to call it, that "Oh!" moment. And for young folks like that, it's never going to happen on an online dating site.
We may dig social networking, but online dating is like an arranged marriage; it's the complete opposite of what's actually great about the Internet. The randomness, the bizarre links, the complete unpredictability. Generations raised on these premises can't handle the online dating formula.
But hey, SpeedDate.com girls, prove me wrong. Like I said, new ponds ...
Comments
My cousin is getting married next month to a guy she met on Match.com. They're both attractive, successful people. Just saying...
Posted 02/13/2009 at 07:33:23 PMI agree, matching sites are businesses, they found a niche.They found people who will pay for something that you can do for nothing. In order to get dates you have to spend most of your time at the computer. When you should be getting out and circulate! What the sites don't tell you is what happens after the marriage. How many of them actually last!
Posted 02/15/2009 at 10:23:03 AMI really don't understand why anyone, especially someone in their 20's, would have to resort to any of these gimmicks to meet people for dating purposes.
Are folks living in isolation pods 24/7?
Posted 02/16/2009 at 07:40:30 AMShe says that online dating doesn't work, but then writes multiple paragraphs about how she has never tried it, and everything else she has tried hasn't worked. How does that make any sense at all? And why would you ever think that personal adds in weeklies would be significantly better than the internet, anyway?
Is no one else confused by this odd logic?
Posted 02/17/2009 at 10:09:40 AMTo be clear, Dr. Loveless, I did try online dating: via OkCupid and the online personals of my local weekly as I wrote.
Posted 02/17/2009 at 10:12:34 AMYou might have accessed local personals via the internet, but you made it quite clear that you avoided the top 4 websites that people associate with the phrase "online dating."
I've heard of people being successful with those (relatively) sophisticated websites. I have never heard of anyone finding love through a run-of-the-mill personal, whether it was published online or in print.
If you really want to prove something doesn't work, you should give it an honest try.
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You should try to have a better attitude
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