Weddiquette: bringing your BFF as a "guest"

Posted at 12:13 PM Jan 05, 2009

By Andrea Grimes

bridewars.jpgI turned 25, and suddenly all my friends are getting married while I'm sitting around perfecting my Sidecar recipe and fighting the patriarchy. Ladies of a certain age and temperament, from fictional Bridget Joneses to real-life every last single gal I know, occasionally dread what the mailbox might bring: a wedding invitation for you and a "guest."
 
I mean, I'm flattered that they think I'm at least capable of attracting a "guest," but also kind of miffed, because "guest" means "date," doesn't it? I've thrown this question out there to the chattering world of Twitter and Facebook and gotten a variety of responses. I ask you, dear readers, If you "and guest" are invited to a wedding, does the "guest" necessarily have to be a person of potential romantic interest?

The assumption is, of course, yes. You bring dates to weddings, not friends. Even if I show up with a platonic guy friend, people are going to figure we're on a date. And if I show up with a girlfriend, advises a compadre of mine, "Just be ready to field questions about the nature of your relationship."

Methinks a revolution is in order: single folks, instead of searching out a warm body to accompany you for the evening, why not bring a good friend you're not interested in? That way, weddings can become fodder for new love connections, instead of couples parades. What think you, dear readers?

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Merritt Martin said:

I absolutely agree. I hate the pressure of finding a date for weddings. And if you do have a significant other and they can't attend, are you just stuck flying solo? I say no!
I've taken friends of both genders for many years to weddings, and always had more fun than when I aimed for a (unavoidably high-pressure) date scenario.
Plus, you can look like an idiot dancing in front/with a friend and not have to burn photographic evidence when you break up later. Not that I've done that.

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This makes me remember something that my grandma pretty much always said...
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